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Book-Review: DANGERS OF NOT CLEAVING UNTO YOUR WIFE: “REVISITING THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE, Embracing Divine Principles For A Successful Marriage

Book-Review: DANGERS OF NOT CLEAVING UNTO YOUR WIFE: “REVISITING THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE, Embracing Divine Principles For A Successful Marriage New York[RR]New York–Family is the center-piece of a successful marriage, but the dangers of not cleaving to your wife, is the albatross of any marriage, Arch-Bishop Gloria Grace said in her book titled: “REVISITING THE […]

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Book-Review: DANGERS OF NOT CLEAVING UNTO YOUR WIFE: “REVISITING THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE, Embracing Divine Principles For A Successful Marriage

New York[RR]New York–Family is the center-piece of a successful marriage, but the dangers of not cleaving to your wife, is the albatross of any marriage, Arch-Bishop Gloria Grace said in her book titled: “REVISITING THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE, Embracing Divine Principles For A Successful Marriage”, said that: “When a man is not submissive to the word of God that asks him to leave his people and cleave to his wife, he opens himself up to something else to cleave, and as mentioned above, he begins to live lie… Since he is not cleaving to his wife, his heart is not with her… He may return and attach himself to his people. In such a circumstance, he is not married to his wife but to his people. He could also start looking for an affair outside because; something has to take the place of his wife to whom he would not commit himself…If the man continues to reject the word of God to cleave that asks him to his wife, and refuses to be committed to her, they are not one flesh anymore, and he will never see her as his wife, but his enemy. He will start criticizing her for one thing or another. Such a marriage is no longer heading to the right direction. That’s why many marriages are full of violence. A man belittles his wife, beats her up, disgraces her, and deprives her of her needs because; he does not have respect for her. He is not in unity with her. He does not cherish her. He considers her sub-standard to him. He has embraced lie rather than truth because he refuses to love and embrace the truth, the word that the Lord God set out for the success of their union. It is written: For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith (Romans 12: 3). A man is not to think that he is better than his wife for both the man and the woman are equal joint heirs of the manifold grace of God…”, Republic Reporters investigations show.

Indeed, ‘If the foundation “is”(be) destroyed, what will the righteous do? (Psalm 11: 3). Every institution, life, building, and organization has a foundation..”, Republic Reporters investigations show. In this book review, Woman of God Gloria Grace wrote…”…that a foolish man built his house on the sand, and when storm, flood and wind came against it, it fell and great was its fall. A wise man however, built his house on the rock and when the storm, the flood and the wind came against it, it did not fall because the foundation of the house was strongly founded upon the rock. The only sure foundation to any life, kingdom, throne, and institution, such as marriage, on which they will survive, is the foundation of the word of God. When temptations, challenges, and trials come, the house (marriage, government, and kingdom) stays strong, because it is founded upon the solid rock, which is the Lord Jesus Christ…”, she said.

We at Republic Reporters New York strongly believe that this book is a must read for any individual, married couples, or persons who intends to get into marriage relationship in the near future and/or excellently good for those who are already in marriage and are looking for possible ways and means/solutions on how to better their marriage to attend its intended objectives.

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In the book, Arch-Bishop Gloria Grace said:”Marriage is ordained and executed by God. It is his original idea and the most important
institution in the world. It started from the beginning of creation and will continue until the end of creation when the Lord Jesus will remove his Bride, the Church, from Earth.

“The meaning and purpose of marriage have been misunderstood, that is why many people violently die in it or get confused and frustrated along the way. I once read a book by Myles Munroe while in Nigeria: In Pursuit of Purpose where he says that, when we do not understand why we are into something that is, the purpose for something, we abuse it. If a man for instance, does not understand why he is given a million dollars, he will abuse it, because he does not understand the purpose or the reason why that money was put into his hands. So he will waste it in things that don’t have value and will be surprised that it is gone.

Continuing she said, “He may end up into poverty again. In the same way, when couples don’t understand why they are in marriage, they abuse their relationship. They will start fighting over money, clothes, toothpaste until they hurt each other. This book will look into the foundation –the original purpose of marriage and how it is part of divine purpose on Earth. The understanding of this will help couples have a vision and walk according to their vision in marriage because, without vision people perish (Proverbs 29:18), but with vision, they will succeed and fulfill their divine destiny on Earth.

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Part of Chapter 4

CHRIST AND THE CHURCH: THE SYMBOL OF MARRIAGE COVENANT

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CONSEQUENCES OF BREAKING GOD’S COVENANT OF MARRIAGE

As long as the Body of Christ, the Bride of Christ, stays under the covenant of love and unity with Christ, they have Christ protection, provision and coverage. They have all the benefits of the covenant: the Abraham covenant blessings which He purchased for us through His Blood; they have the love of God demonstrated to us through the Lord Jesus on the Cross and they have the entire treasures of Heaven laid out for them. But if the Bride (the Church or any of His own) leaves the Bridegroom (Christ), she is out of divine protection and coverage and is exposed to the ravaging wild beasts –Satan and his agents. Most people die instantly or have their last state worse than the beginning because; the enemy goes back with seven more deadly demons to get the person into greater bondage. In the same way, when the couple or any of the couples begin to willingly walk away from God’s covenant of marriage through abuses or disobedience to the word of God, if the problem is with the husband who is the head of the home, there is problem with the entire body, the family. The husband or whoever has broken the covenant will begin to walk in deception of the enemy:

And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. (2 Thessalonians 2: 10-12KJV).

The above verse is self-explanatory. The person, who knows or understands the truth (the word), and who refuses to love and embrace that truth, but begins to walk in the deceitfulness of the way he has chosen for himself, in unrighteousness, God will send to such a person a strong delusion to believe a lie ( to believe what is false). This will cause such a person to perish. We see that in marriage therefore, as
one of the couple begins to depart from the marriage covenant which he cut with his wife in the presence of the Heavenly and Earthly witnesses, and refuses to allow the word of God to correct him so that he can return to his marital responsibilities, he is heading for destruction. In such a case, marriage becomes struggles and full of arguments and strife. It is written that where there is strife, there is confusion and every evil work (James 3:16). With strife and so forth, things begin to fall apart in the family. The enemy begins to have a field day in their marriage, while the children’s lives begin to fall apart as they try to find security and stability, which home is no
longer giving them, outside the home.

Breaking the covenant you made before God is very consequential. Many people have died in the process or hurt themselves in various ways. After committing themselves in marriage covenant, some people begin to take the word of the covenant for granted. Consequentially, numerous problems begin to erupt as described above. At last, the marriage ends up in divorce or separation, while some people end up dead. Some things that cause the breaking of covenant shall be discussed in the next chapter.

CHAPTER 5

NOT LEAVING, NOT CLEAVING

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2: 24-25).

This is a controversial issue in many families that even some of the very elects have used it to oppress their own marriages. God is God and not man. Some people that even call themselves marriage counsellors have twisted this message to satisfy the desires of the male counterpart, who would not let go of his people in marriage. At times, some people say it in such a way as though the woman or the man (depending on who is the victim here) wrote that scripture and so; they use it to intimidate her. She ends up becoming a house-help in her marriage because; she is married to her husband’s entire family and must accommodate them all in her marriage: serve them all so they will accept her as “our wife”. This is more prevalent in African tradition. She is not to complain because, they would not want her to be seen as coming to destroy the unity that holds her husband and his people, so she continues to live under the hard pressure and oppression of her husband’s people.

She has lost her identity. And because, the foundation of that marriage is not being laid in Christ but on tradition, too many evils will start happening on it. In most cases, the in-laws will send her away because she is not a good wife (of course she won’t be), as she could not please everyone. She is miserable!
In some cases, to cope with such a situation, such a woman becomes manipulative or bitter. In manipulation, she would treat her husband’s people good in his presence and bad in his absence. She is scheming and manipulative, because she does not want to lose her marriage, and not wanting her husband to see her as a bad person to his people. This is one of the perils of tradition in marriage. Check out my oncoming book: Traditional conflict in marriage. When God ordained marriage, He established the above law/foundation: For this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall be one flesh. It is the foundation of marriage. If a man will not leave his people, he cannot and will not cleave to his wife. The old wineskin will have to go for the new wine to take place.

Old life will have to go for the new life to take place. So old attachments and unity with your people will have to go for you to form one union with your wife. I did not write it, God did. The Lord Jesus says that He brought a sword in the world, a mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law (Mathew 10: 35). What this means is that, for the word of God to take place in your life, in your family, something there will give way. The word of God is the sword that puts asunder the old from the new. The mother has to let her son, go. Psalm 45: 10 says: Forget also your own people, your father’s house, for the King delights in you…. This scripture as well as applies to our relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ, it also applies to marriage unions. In both relationships “cleaving” takes place after “leaving”.

You say: “I cannot leave my son to that bitch; that witch. She has bewitched my son. I will make sure I will control the situation so she will not steal my son from me”. Well, that is why you should have spent so much time in prayers and even in fasting, covering your son spiritually until the Lord directs the right person to him. When a godly woman enters into the life of your son and you allow the word of God to take place in that marriage, your daughter-in-law and your son will marry you like a wife.

This is because, you did not go fighting your daughter-in-law over your son, but you humbled yourself to God and continue to uphold them in prayers, with godly wisdom and counselling so their foundation would solidly be laid on the word of God. You want grand- children that will be emotionally and physically healthy, happy, and loving you. You want to be part of their lives for good: then give place to the word of God. If Naomi was a bad mother-in-law, Ruth would not have chosen to leave her people and everything behind to go with her, when she did not even have any hope of getting into marriage with anyone else. She cleaved to her godly mother- in-law, a woman full of faith who extolled the word of God above anything else. She was a loving mother and a role model to Ruth and so, Ruth cleaved to her assuring her that her God would be her God, and her people would become her people: only death could separate them from each other. She was literally giving her life over to this woman. She never thought of her comforts anymore. What did she see? It was the love that Naomi radiated through her faith in God. Their commitment to the word of God and to each other made them heroes of faith and the genealogy of the Lord Jesus Christ. God saw their unity and oneness of purpose in Him. He saw their faith in Him through His word and blessed Ruth with the wealthiest man in the land, Boaz who loved her so much and willingly redeemed her through marriage. God honoured Naomi’s faith and gave her a grandson, Obed who was the father of Jesse, David’s father. Our Lord Jesus Christ descended from this lineage. Jesus Christ is called the
Son of David.

During a marriage ceremony between a husband and his wife, they vow to leave everyone else to cleave to each other. This is because; the word of God says so. When a man accepts his wife as his wife; loves and cherishes her as one flesh with him, honouring the covenant he cut with her in the presence of God, His angels and human witnesses, no one can come between them. That will offend his people, but it is the responsibility of the man to sit down with his people with love and understanding and explain to them that as a married man, his priority is his family-his wife. Though he will still help to take care of them, but his life, his decision- making will be with his wife. As he does this and stands by his word, his people will respect his choice. Whenever they attack his wife, he stands to protect her and not accuse
her of coming between him and his people. As his people continue to notice that attacking his wife will even estrange their son/brother from them, they will submit to the principles that guide that marriage and respect them as a family.

DANGERS OF NOT CLEAVING

When a man is not submissive to the word of God that asks him to leave his people and cleave to his wife, he opens himself up to something else to cleave, and as mentioned above, he begins to live lie… Since he is not cleaving to his wife, his heart is not with her… He may return and attach himself to his people. In such a circumstance, he is not married to his wife but to his people. He could also start
looking for an affair outside because; something has to take the place of his wife to whom he would not commit himself…If the man continues to reject the word of God to cleave that asks him to his wife, and refuses to be committed to her, they are not one flesh anymore, and he will never see her as his wife, but his enemy. He will start criticizing her for one thing or another. Such a marriage is no longer heading to the right direction. That’s why many marriages are full of violence. A man belittles his wife, beats her up, disgraces her, and deprives her of her needs because; he does not have respect for her. He is not in unity with her. He does not cherish her. He considers her sub-standard to him. He has embraced lie rather than truth because he refuses to love and embrace the truth, the word that the Lord God set out for the success of their union. It is written: For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith (Romans 12: 3). A man is not to think that he is better than his wife for both the man and the woman are equal joint heirs of the manifold grace of God.

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CHAPTER 7

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THE ROLE OF A GODLY WOMAN.

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